Episode 94: Are You Living in Someone Else's House? | The Courage to Be Yourself in Life and Leadership with Dr. Aday Adetosoye
What if the leadership (and maybe life) you've been striving for... isn't actually yours?
Many of us spend our existence performing the version of leadership (and life) we believe others expect—editing our voice, suppressing our instincts, and following blueprints handed to us by family, culture, organizations, or society. From the outside, everything may look great...successful even. But inside, something still feels off.
In this episode, Dr. Katie chats with leadership strategist Dr. Aday Adetosoye, who invites us to examine a simple but profound question:
Are you living under your own roof?
Using the metaphor of a house, Aday explores what it means to build a life and leadership that reflects your own values, beliefs, convictions, and emotional truths—not someone else's expectations.
Together, Katie and Aday unpack why so many leaders unknowingly perform instead of lead authentically, how inherited "blueprints" quietly shape our decisions, and why courage isn't about becoming fearless—it's about finally coming home to yourself.
Whether you lead an organization, a family, a community, or simply your own life, this conversation will challenge you to look beyond the "curb appeal" of leadership and step inside the rooms that truly define who you are.
Key Learnings:
Why authentic leadership begins with understanding whose "blueprint" you're living by. How family, culture, mentors, and organizations quietly shape the way we perform leadership.
The hidden cost of editing yourself to fit someone else's expectations. Why success doesn't always mean you're living in alignment with yourself.
How to identify the "rooms" of your house—your values, beliefs, convictions, boundaries, and emotional truths.
Why resilience acts as the roof that protects your authentic self from outside pressure.
How vulnerability becomes less threatening when you're secure in who you are. Why courage isn't the absence of fear, but choosing to live according to your own values despite it.
Practical questions to help you determine whether you're living under your own roof—or someone else's.
LINKS & Resources:
Connect with Aday on LinkedIn
Explore 1099 Impact Street: https://www.1099impactstreet.com/
Guest Info:
Dr. Aday Adetosoye is a leadership strategist, keynote speaker, executive coach, and the founder of 1099 Impact Street. She helps leaders move beyond performative leadership by aligning their actions with their authentic values, beliefs, and purpose. Through her signature "living under your own roof" metaphor, Aday equips individuals and organizations to challenge inherited expectations, build resilience, and lead with courage, authenticity, and lasting impact.
