How Does Your Life Feel?
If you had to choose three words to describe how you're feeling right now—in this exact moment, as you're reading this email—what would they be? Go ahead. Name them.
Now here's the more interesting question: Are those words reflective of how you WANT to feel?
And yes, I think it's especially interesting to ask this question on a Monday. Because how Monday feels in your body might be trying to tell you something. Notice I didn't ask, "How are you?" I didn't ask how your career is going, how your relationships are doing, or whether life is generally "good". Because your answer might very well be: "Good!" The job is good. The family is good. The house is good. Things look pretty darn good on paper.
But when we slow down long enough to name how we're actually feeling (not simply whether life is good or bad), we begin to learn something very different about our wellbeing. I know this because Mondays used to feel heavy to me. And I couldn't quite put my finger on why. The "right" pieces were there. I had so much to be grateful for. So why did I seem to dread the beginning of another week? We each have our own journey to explore that question.
But here's what I want you to know: It's not the way life has to be.
There is NOTHING written somewhere that says: "Whelp, you're an adult now. Five days of your life belong to responsibility and two days belong to you... maybe. Good luck with that!"
And yet, isn't that how many of us live? We tolerate Monday through Friday. We look forward to Friday night. We live for vacations. We count down to holidays and retirement. And we simply accept that this is what adulthood is supposed to be.
I don't believe that anymore. After a lot of inner work and many small shifts over time, I can genuinely say that I look forward to Mondays as much as I look forward to Saturdays. No cap! (I'm a geriatric millennial. Did I use that correctly? 😂)
And that transformation has become part of what fuels my work today—helping people build lives they truly love, not lives they need to regularly escape from. For me, so much of it comes back to alignment. Does the way you're actually living reflect what matters most to you? Does the way you're spending your time reflect what you say you value? Does your life feel like yours?
And when the answer is no, or I’m not sure, then we have a choice. We can continue telling ourselves, "This is just the way it is." Or we can become curious about what might be different through small, intentional shifts.
So go back to those three words you chose at the beginning. And ask yourself: What's ONE small shift I could make this week so that next Monday might feel a little different?
Change One Thing
We're not overhauling your life this week to suddenly make Mondays better. We're running an experiment. Think about those three words you named earlier and ask yourself: What's one small thing I could change this week that might help me feel differently next Monday?
Maybe you...
Remove one non-critical commitment from your calendar and leave the space empty.
Stay off social media for the first or last hour of your day and listen to music instead.
Put something on Monday's calendar that you genuinely look forward to: a coffee date, favorite lunch, morning walk, yoga class, or 30 minutes with a book.
Make something simply because you enjoy creating.
Go to bed 30 minutes earlier.
Take your lunch break away from your desk.
Call someone who makes you laugh.
Do absolutely nothing for 30 minutes without trying to make that time "useful".
Choose one. Then next Monday, check in again. Three words. Small shift. Repeat. That's it.
Don't ask whether your experiment made you more productive. Ask: Did it change how my life felt?
That's data worth paying attention to.
